Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Biblical Roles in Marriage

What kind of picture do you want the world to see through your marriage?

Last week at premarital counseling we split into two groups, guys and girls, and discussed the biblical roles of marriage.  Here are a few things that stood out to me...

Love is an attitude of unconditional acceptance.  So first we must recognize that we are two in-perfect people, he has faults and you have faults.  We live in a broken world, look at Romans 3:23 "for all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."

Marriage isn't a Partnership.  This was news to me.  Tyler and I have always said that our marriage will be a partnership, we were wrong.  It's not a partnership because marriage is never 50/50, someone is always doing more than the other.  This means that you maybe giving 80% while he's giving 20% or he's giving 90% while you are giving 10%.  It goes back and forth.  The bottom line is that you have to be willing to give 100%.  God gave us each other to help each other.  Like is says in Genesis 2:18 "It is not good for the man to be alone, I will make him a helper suitable for him."

So when it comes down to it what do you want your marriage to look like?  What do you want it to reflect? Don't confuse this with making everything look great on the outside, but inside it's a disaster.  We must come together for each other and for a common goal.

Through this Tyler and I have decided to have a verse that we want as a theme in our our relationship & marriage:  "We love because he first loved us" - 1 John 4:19



  1. I must say, reading your blog is a highlight of my day :) It reminds me of how lucky and blessed I am to be in such a wonderful marriage.

    We had this same conversation with our pastor when we were going through the premarital stuff about it not being a partnership. And I must admit, at the time I still thought it wasn't true. But, now coming up on two years of marriage, they know what they are talking about. Many times its one of us giving more than the other, but then next time it will switch around.

    Thanks for the great post this morning :)

  2. I love your new blog! If you ever get a chance, the Family Life "Weekend to Remember" Marriage get-away is amazing!! We went this past summer. We want to go again since you can go any where in the US for it! Rob was dreading going, but he ended up loving it. We learned a lot and it was awesome to get away and only focus on our marriage.
    -Mary Beth